Life!

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Or, we fear loss. Fear is such a strong emotion.

Notice that the literature or movie is intended for the living ... i know ... this goes without saying . Still, some of those are for especially young audiences, that @canesisters is referencing.

I know that fear sometimes make people shutdown. It almost seems likely when one fears loss of self. At some point, the individual has to be allowed some No Fault zone, as the difficulties of life become overwhelming. However ... we aren't alone here!

Fear is entangled with other emotions such as love but even just liking plays a role in relationships, of course. Beyond any beliefs about the hereafter or here-and-now, there are the relationships with other mortals. Those come with some obligations that most folks shoulder but caring for self enters in here ... a wider reality than what goes on under one's own skin. Integration with the lives of others and ...

Steve

 

[Gardening with Rabbits]

It rated the "Beehive State" of Utah as especially high on the happiness list despite it mediocre rank for Emotional & Physical Well-Being. Community, physical and work environments, as evaluated, pulled it up to the top states. Physical well-being: the state rates lowest in tobacco and alcohol use according to the CDC. Emotions???

So, I'm not in Utah. Why do I have a friend who's doctor told him a half dozen years ago that he should quit smoking and after open heart surgery and now lung cancer surgery and chemotherapy - still smokes?

I have another friend who has been nearly incapacitated from excess weight and has had 2 heart attacks this year. Why does this friend say that if he has to change his lifestyle to live another 30 years or continue as he always has and live for 10 minutes, he will choose the 10 minutes?

Are these emotionally damaged individuals or am I being too judgmental, or something?

Steve

I believe DH was emotionally damaged. Very hard childhood of parents fighting, drinking dad. His grandpa died sitting in a Sunday church service and DH was there and 16. He started smoking that year. Smoked for 40 years and quit the day he got his diagnosis. Your childhood is your future, maybe.

 

[flowerbug]

I believe DH was emotionally damaged. Very hard childhood of parents fighting, drinking dad. His grandpa died sitting in a Sunday church service and DH was there and 16. He started smoking that year. Smoked for 40 years and quit the day he got his diagnosis. Your childhood is your future, maybe.

your childhood plays an important part of things for sure. i've always known i did not really want to be a parent. i've put a lot of things down as "resolved" yet will once in a while find something that is still hanging out there waiting for the right situations to come along. :/ ah well, on we roll...