Mom Went to Assisted Living

[seedcorn]

Along with everyone else, don't beat yourself up. You can only do what you can do. I couldn't get my folks to move by me when they needed to. Mom would still be alive if she had.

Just treat her as you want your children to treat you. It's tough!

 

[sumi]

 

[bobm]

for taking great care of your mother. for you !

 

[baymule]

I hate nursing homes and I hate assisted living.....necessary, but that doesn't make me like it any better. When that day comes for me, maybe my kids will just take me camping and let me wander off in the wilderness........

 

[so lucky]

No matter what you do for your parents, you always feel you could have/should have done more/different/better.
My mom told me, when she was very ill, that I should never feel I didn't do enough for her. That makes me feel a little better, but I have to say I did resent all the demands made on me at the time. Several times she told me she wished I could just stay there at the nursing home with her all the time to take care of her. Man, what a heavy burden that put on me emotionally!

I hope you find a satisfactory solution for her care after you move. There are no easy answers, and what works for one family doesn't necessarily work for others.

I think it was you, Bay, who brought to my attention the "Over The Rainbow" video by Brother Iz. It hit me extremely hard....in a good way. We used it at Mom's funeral.
Anyway, just wanted to say I'm sending good energy your way.

 

[baymule]

Awwww..... I am glad I posted that. That version of Over the Rainbow gives me goosebumps and/or makes me cry. I am glad it was a comfort to you. Here is the link if anyone wants to listen to it.

https://search.yahoo.com/search;_yl...1&fp=1&cop=mss&ei=UTF-8&p=iz over the rainbow

 

[Jared77]

You did everything you could for as long as you could. The important thing is she's safe. Remember that.

Anytime you need to vent we're here for you.

 

[Carol Dee]

Borning Cry

Amazing Grace Bagpipes

What a Wonderful World

Are all sure to bring tears and a lump to my throat.

 

[ninnymary]

Bay, you're mom did a great job raising you because look at all that you have done for her. It's ok for others to care for her now and for you to do the visiting. You've put a lot of time and energy into her care and you deserve a little rest and time with your husband. Try not to feel guilty. Good luck in your future move and with the decision of what to do with your mom at the end of the year. Hugs.

Mary

 

[seedcorn]

Does your mom have other children to help?