My Dad

[Poka_Doodle]

So sorry about everything Journey, I hope things improve.

 

[thistlebloom]

So sorry that things have taken a bad turn Journey. Life is so messy.

I'm glad you at least had a breathing space to unwind a bit and just be home with your family. I too hope your sis keeps it together enough to continue be helpful.
I think you have come to the right decision on the firearms. Better to endure your dads indignation then to have something go terribly wrong in a moment of extreme stress.

Take some deep breaths and hang on tight to that One who is faithful and true.
Still praying for you all.

 

[Rhodie Ranch]

Soft, gentle with baby pats on your back hugs.

 

[journey11]

Things are working out OK with my sister still helping. She hasn't complained too much, ha. I know her life is busy too. I am looking at the home stretch, just pressing forward for now. Things will quiet down to only the occasional appointment after that.

My brother says he's absolutely not coming back. Dad doesn't even know (or care) that he is mad and keeps asking when it's his turn or if he'll come over and do this or that for him. They have never had a good relationship. Many years of hurts and scars there for my brother. All he has ever wanted was Dad's love and approval. Doesn't help that he is unapologetic about selling drugs and knocking up his druggie girlfriend. I think he is attempting to do the best he can with the mess he's made out of his life and did want to help at first and try not to have regrets there. Hard to explain and too many skeletons in the closet, but they both are wrong, unforgiving and both have a measure of guilt in this. I don't expect it to improve, really.

Dad has had a better attitude about his treatments this week. I think it helps him to know he's only got two more weeks of this to endure. He has really done very well with the treatments and had minimal side effects at this point and for that I am extremely thankful. I think he is still fine to stay in his own home and this may buy him even a few years of independence and quality of life. They said the one factor determining the best outcome for this cancer is complete removal of the tumor, which his was. There are usually undetectable rogue cancer cells left behind and that's what the treatments are for. He still has a good appetite and may be the only person ever to gain weight on chemo. He hasn't had much nausea. He is losing his hair now though and that is really upsetting to him.

DH and I went mushroom hunting on Thursday and hit the mother-lode on morels this year. Came home with plenty to share with our family, so I fried up a bunch for Dad and he really enjoyed them. Said it had been over 10 years since he'd had them.

I never did get anything started in flats this year. I did get the flats filled with dirt, but that was about it. Looks like it will be an early summer this year. The forecast is great from here all the way out past my last-frost date, so as soon as it dries out a little, I'm going to have DH till the garden for me and we'll get started. I'll buy a couple tomato plants and some jalapeno peppers, etc., but I may still try to start a few of my favorites. We have a long enough season here that people often do a second planting of tomatoes to go into the fall.

 

[Nyboy]

You sound a lot better then a couple of days ago. What woman don't know is men have a fear of losing their hair. A lot of people going though this get a crew cut. It helps make lose not so noticeable

 

[journey11]

You sound a lot better then a couple of days ago. What woman don't know is men have a fear of losing their hair. A lot of people going though this get a crew cut. It helps make lose not so noticeable

Yeah, the drama has quieted down and that helps. Family drama is so draining, really derails me.

I keep hoping Dad will come to the conclusion he needs to cut his hair shorter. I hate to mention it to him. I'm surprised he hasn't been wearing a hat.

 

[Carol Dee]

A great post today @journey11 I am happy to hear about the improvements. DH got carried away and we will have many more starts than we can us. If I thought they would travel well I would send some but fear the shipping would stress or kill them. I am sure you could still start many things and get a nice garden this year. Still think of you and send out the extra prayers and hugs daily.

 

[aftermidnight]

A crew cut great advice, I didn't have long hair but when I was going through chemo it was suggested that I should cut my hair really short, of course I didn't, I just wore a toque. I ended up looking like that charactor in 'Halloween' just scraggly patches of hair in a sea of bald LOL. One morning I looked up from brushing my teeth and saw myself in the mirror, I yelled for DH and got him to shave me bald and I have to say I looked a heck of a lot better. Two months after I finished chemo it was already growing back in and bonus it came in real wavy. All I have to do now is wet my hair in the morning put a comb through it, and, hey rain doesn't bother it at all. DH had very little hair left so a couple of years earlier he shaved his head, for awhile we were twinsies. The bald head looks good on him and people think he looks much younger then he actually is. One of our boys also shaves his head, one way of getting rid of the grey hair.

Annette

 

[ninnymary]

Annette, my mothers hair also turned wavy and has stayed that way after her chemo.

Mary

 

[Nyboy]

My mother had a crush on Kojack said bald men where very sexy.