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Wow, so glad he's on the mend. I had wondered at your absence and we're glad you're back! Keep us up to date on DH's progress.
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Chickie'sMomaInNH
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i know well what you have recently been going through. my dh had a stroke over a year ago and there are some things i don't expect him to fully recover from. my dh still has problems swallowing thin liquids (very stubborn and doesn't want to thicken liquids), occasional slurred speech which has to do with why he has a difficult time with thin liquids, and i've noticed his memory is still a little buggy where he used to remember a lot of things he loved to watch (mostly sci-fi episodes he's seen numerous times over the years we've been together.) he does have some slowness of comprehension and movements he has to take time with. he doesn't have the weakness or balance issues anymore and i am grateful for that too.
while in rehab they put him through his paces to get him stable enough to go home after 2 weeks. they kept trying to tell him to take his time but he was impulsive and would rush through the exercises like a kid. or kept trying to shovel food and having problems with eating it too fast.
at first it was difficult for me to tell the difference between him crying or trying to laugh. too many times he was crying and that is hard to see happening to someone you've never seen doing it before. laughing is still difficult for me to hear him doing since it sounds like crying but now i know it's really laughter, just not what he used to sound like.
my brother in law also had a stroke a few weeks ago. lucky my nephew recognized the signs and got him to the hospital soon enough to stop it from going any further.
i'm sure the doctors told you to keep a good eye on him in case he starts up again with any of the same symptoms. you may want to keep some sort of journal to keep track of some behaviors in case the doctors ask to see any improvements or changes in observations like moods.
good luck and speedy recovery for him and you too!
while in rehab they put him through his paces to get him stable enough to go home after 2 weeks. they kept trying to tell him to take his time but he was impulsive and would rush through the exercises like a kid. or kept trying to shovel food and having problems with eating it too fast.
at first it was difficult for me to tell the difference between him crying or trying to laugh. too many times he was crying and that is hard to see happening to someone you've never seen doing it before. laughing is still difficult for me to hear him doing since it sounds like crying but now i know it's really laughter, just not what he used to sound like.
my brother in law also had a stroke a few weeks ago. lucky my nephew recognized the signs and got him to the hospital soon enough to stop it from going any further.
i'm sure the doctors told you to keep a good eye on him in case he starts up again with any of the same symptoms. you may want to keep some sort of journal to keep track of some behaviors in case the doctors ask to see any improvements or changes in observations like moods.
good luck and speedy recovery for him and you too!
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I hope his recovery is speedy and complete Red. 
journey11
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Oh, how frightening that must have been for you. Praying he'll have a quick recovery.
It's easy to pass out after a bad stomach bug like that. It can make your blood sugar dip too low.
It's easy to pass out after a bad stomach bug like that. It can make your blood sugar dip too low.
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My best wishes and prayers go to you, Red. It is so frightening when a person we know and admire, trust, defer to, depend on, begins to fail before our eyes. Whom do you now turn to for advice and reassurance? Although I haven't had your particular experience, the slow disintegration of my DH due to mental illness is devastating in itself.
I hope you and he are mending well, by now.
I hope you and he are mending well, by now.
pjn
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Thoughts and prayers your way. A speedy recovery.
AMKuska
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That must have been so frightening! I'm glad he seems to be on the mend. Keep a close eye on him!
ninnymary
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Red, what a fright. Do they know why he had bleeding? Is it something that may occur again? I'm sorry I have so many questions but I'm the type that needs to know so as to look for warning signs or to prevent it in the future.
I'm glad you were able to be there and act fast. I always worry about people who are alone. As others have said, taking care of yourself is paramount. You need to be healthy and restful in order to take care of him. Hope he is back to normal in a few days.
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I'm glad you were able to be there and act fast. I always worry about people who are alone. As others have said, taking care of yourself is paramount. You need to be healthy and restful in order to take care of him. Hope he is back to normal in a few days.
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Thank you all so much for the kind thoughts and words. DH really is doing well considering what was possible. The doctors said he might have problems for several months after the accident, and I will, indeed, be keeping a bit closer to him than usual, but I see hardly none of the behaviors that had me rushing him to the doctor. Just a bit of a problem finding the right word some times like asking me to "put the clothes here on the table and I'll fold them" as he's pointing to the bed. That is such a small error. Right now there isn't much that he could do that I would consider a problem; I am so grateful to have him well and at home.
I told him I would be bragging about this to everyone, that the one thing that made this whole unpleasant experience easy for me was that he never once blamed me for holding him against his will or suggested that I did something wrong taking him to the hospital as I had expected. Every whine, complaint, and misunderstanding caused by his injury was based on US and THEM, never ME and HIM. That was a blessing that will fill my heart for a long, long time to come.
I told him I would be bragging about this to everyone, that the one thing that made this whole unpleasant experience easy for me was that he never once blamed me for holding him against his will or suggested that I did something wrong taking him to the hospital as I had expected. Every whine, complaint, and misunderstanding caused by his injury was based on US and THEM, never ME and HIM. That was a blessing that will fill my heart for a long, long time to come.
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No, Chickie'sMomaInNH, you don't know what I've gone through. My experience is nothing more that a pin prick compared to what you have been through. Bless you for your kind words, though. You are in a much more difficult situation and far more deserving of hugs and good thoughts. You and yours are certainly in my thoughts and prayers.
This fall DH took certainly woke me to the possibilities of what a long term illness could mean for a family. Especially in someone who has always seemed so invincible. The 11 year difference between us hasn't ever been an issue because his genes are such that my body is probably the older medically. One doctor said he had the body of a man 20 years younger and another said he had a much younger man's eyes. I teased that I hoped neither man came back looking for their parts.
