so lucky
Garden Master
We had our Thanksgiving meal yesterday (Friday) to accommodate my son's SO who had to work on Thursday.
I cooked the turkey, dressing and gravy and pies, son brought green bean casserole and potatoes.
The meal was so-so, at best, in my estimation. Dressing wasn't up to my standards, nor was the gravy. (Potatoes and green beans were good!) (Pies weren't spectacular, either)
We had my son, his 4 kids, and his SO, the mother of the youngest child there, 2 and a half years old.
I was amazed that the mom went into the living room and laid down on the floor and went to sleep. She got up to eat, but left the table before she ate hardly anything, went back to the floor to sleep. Hardly participated in any of the conversation, didn't help with her little boy at all. My son said she had slept 11 hours the night before. He seemed resigned, and aggravated.
The kids all acted like they were used to it. I felt bad for them. At one point I went to her and asked her if she need to go to the doctor. She said no, she was alright, just tired. I told her, no that is not alright. You need to see a doctor. I said I was worried that she was not able to care for her little boy, that her feeling that tired was not normal.
I didn't think about it at the time, but later remembered being told that she lost custody of her other child about 8 years ago (before we knew her) reportedly for being "unfit."
I think I saw a slight "deer in the headlights" look when I mentioned her inability to take care of her child. It wasn't my intent to threaten her, but she may have taken it that way. But if it takes that to make her do what is necessary to get back into life, I'm OK with it.
I'M the one with no energy around here; I'll not have her usurping my position!
I cooked the turkey, dressing and gravy and pies, son brought green bean casserole and potatoes.
The meal was so-so, at best, in my estimation. Dressing wasn't up to my standards, nor was the gravy. (Potatoes and green beans were good!) (Pies weren't spectacular, either)
We had my son, his 4 kids, and his SO, the mother of the youngest child there, 2 and a half years old.
I was amazed that the mom went into the living room and laid down on the floor and went to sleep. She got up to eat, but left the table before she ate hardly anything, went back to the floor to sleep. Hardly participated in any of the conversation, didn't help with her little boy at all. My son said she had slept 11 hours the night before. He seemed resigned, and aggravated.
The kids all acted like they were used to it. I felt bad for them. At one point I went to her and asked her if she need to go to the doctor. She said no, she was alright, just tired. I told her, no that is not alright. You need to see a doctor. I said I was worried that she was not able to care for her little boy, that her feeling that tired was not normal.
I didn't think about it at the time, but later remembered being told that she lost custody of her other child about 8 years ago (before we knew her) reportedly for being "unfit."
I think I saw a slight "deer in the headlights" look when I mentioned her inability to take care of her child. It wasn't my intent to threaten her, but she may have taken it that way. But if it takes that to make her do what is necessary to get back into life, I'm OK with it.
I'M the one with no energy around here; I'll not have her usurping my position!
