Dad Threw Roommate Out Last Night.

[thistlebloom]

Nicely put Bee, and I don't think you're mean at all.

 

[catjac1975]

A couple of years ago a mother could not take her daughters fighting in the back seat of car. She pulled over in down town White Plains, put her daughters out of the car and said walk 4 blocks home. As the mom drove off the girls started crying, a small group of people stopped to help and called the police. The mother was arrested and got death threats, she was like the most hated woman in NY.

A while back I was driving with Grandson age 4 to see my sister. It was at her son's house and I got 99 % there and could not find the turn to actually get there. My husband had borrowed my GPS and I left without it. Phone was almost out of power so GPS on that did not work. I was very upset, but was able to call my sister and have her come get us. A few days ago 4 year old and his Mom were driving with some friends and he asked her where her ""Damn GPS was." She told him that was a naughty way to talk and he said, "That's what Grandma calls it"" We all almost died laughing. That kid is always telling on me.

 

[dickiebird]

I'll say this again I've NEVER had a spanking in my life and have yet to kill my first person.
I graduated, served in the military, been married,to the same person (a woman) for over 50 yrs. I worked for the same co for overy 30 yrs.
I retired at age 54 and I still have not needed or had a spanking.
I knew right from wrong and I wanted my parents to be proud of me so I was well behaved.
My not being spanked had nothing to do with my mother loving herself too much to do the work of a parent!!!!!
THANX RICH

Y'all would probably think I was the meanest thing coming and going. Spankings are necessary. Period. If you love your child, discipline has to happen. Whenever I hear about someone who never gave their child a spanking, I know there goes a child whose parents put their own feelings in front of the well being and character of their own children. In other words, they loved themselves too much to do the hard work of parenting in the way it should be done.

People often get it confused that beatings are discipline and that spankings are beatings. Beatings are punishment...there's no place for that in raising a child. Spankings are discipline and it's not a big person hitting a small person for the fun of it all or to bully them or because they are angry...if you are spanking while angry, you are doing it wrong. It's a negative reinforcement just like all the other~ less effectual~ negative reinforcements such as time outs, groundings, sending one to their room, etc. Some things call for a time out, some things call for a spanking. Simple as that.

Nothing more, nothing less. No need to demonize it like it's something horrible or mean, it's actually love in its purest form. Nothing hurts a parent more than having to inflict temporary physical pain on their own child to affect a positive outcome....except maybe seeing their child grow up to hurt themselves and others simply because their parents didn't do their job while they were young enough to shape their character.

 

[aftermidnight]

A while back I was driving with Grandson age 4 to see my sister. It was at her son's house and I got 99 % there and could not find the turn to actually get there. My husband had borrowed my GPS and I left without it. Phone was almost out of power so GPS on that did not work. I was very upset, but was able to call my sister and have her come get us. A few days ago 4 year old and his Mom were driving with some friends and he asked her where her ""Damn GPS was." She told him that was a naughty way to talk and he said, "That's what Grandma calls it"" We all almost died laughing. That kid is always telling on me.

out of the mouths of babes. Anyone here old enough to remember Art Linkletter's "Kids say the dardest things". Some parents had some very embarrassing moments.

Annette

 

[seedcorn]

Ok, Rich. You were the perfect child that now has no problem displaying nudity in your front yard. Got it.

FYI, no one said that parents that don't discipline raise murderers.

Kids (& assune g'kids) make one question their actions.

 

[seedcorn]

@dickiebird since I typed it publicly, I will apologize accordingly. My last response was not in a good spirit. While I disagree 100% in your stance on public nudity, I should not allow it to question your raising publicly. You might want to study up on said "art" as you will find most had a very sordid past & did it for $$$ for sordid rulers. No puritan reasons-just early porn.

 

[thistlebloom]

I'll say this again I've NEVER had a spanking in my life and have yet to kill my first person.
I graduated, served in the military, been married,to the same person (a woman) for over 50 yrs. I worked for the same co for overy 30 yrs.
I retired at age 54 and I still have not needed or had a spanking.
I knew right from wrong and I wanted my parents to be proud of me so I was well behaved.
My not being spanked had nothing to do with my mother loving herself too much to do the work of a parent!!!!!
THANX RICH

It's finally happened! I can now say I know a perfect human!
Too bad about the rest of us. I'm sure I didn't get as many spankings as I should have, and am probably still eligible now and then.

 

[Nyboy]

I am very proud of the times I got over on my parents. My parents had different beliefs about hitting us. My father felt it was ok for any adult to hit us if they thought we deserved it, My mother felt no one hits her children but parents. I remember my mother and the witch who was my fathers sister having a big fight. My Aunt did not like some thing my sister said to her and slap my sister in the face. My mother made it very clear if she ever hit one of us again she would end up in ER. My mother grew up in the Bronx, you did not want to mess with her.

 

[seedcorn]

@Nyboy Slap in face is a completely different animal than spanking a child by parent. To be honest, if I back talked an elder, my Dad would have worn me out. Spanking is different than a beating or child abuse, again completely different animals. My Dad may have then had words with your aunt as to what led up to my sisters behavior. Aunt probably would not have liked that conversation.

Please explain remark, proud of getting over on parents. I don't understand.

I'm actually enjoying this conversation concerning different discipline methods by parents.

 

[Nyboy]

I should have been punished much more then I was. my parents never found out about 75% of the things I did.