Smart Red
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I know I've been posting a lot of the difficult things going on around me, but all is not bad.
Despite the stressors, DH and I have been having some of our best days. Peaceful, quiet, funny, working together, and stress free.
One reason is that the medicine has begun working and he is feeling much better.
Another is that we've been adapting to some changes in dealing with missing words or not understanding large parts of conversations
I think the biggest reason for the way we have been getting on with things together is that my wonderful DH has decided that he does want to take the required medicine needed for him to get better.
At first, he didn't want to take these horse-pill sized, disgusting tasting meds four times a day. Every dose was a 'fight' that was stressful on both of us. Every dose meant explaining again and again why it was necessary and what might happen if he didn't take the pills. Suddenly, a few days ago it all clicked! He started asking me if it was time to take another pill. Started telling me I shouldn't wait too long lest I forget to give it to him. Actually woke up at midnight without complaint to take the night time dose.
This had been such a worry to me and therefore such a relief that every day has been a wonderful one. I feel like a wife again instead of a nurse or mommy. That he's back to making jokes, holding hands, taking car rides just to sight see a bit, even taken a few shopping trips (he hates shopping) together in peace and fun has been such a blessing to this house.
'We' still have problems -- with dementia some will never go away -- but I could easily take another 44 years like the past few days with this man and treasure each and every one.
Ya'll let me vent and complain and I thank you for that.
Now THIS is something worth sharing!
Despite the stressors, DH and I have been having some of our best days. Peaceful, quiet, funny, working together, and stress free.
One reason is that the medicine has begun working and he is feeling much better.
Another is that we've been adapting to some changes in dealing with missing words or not understanding large parts of conversations
I think the biggest reason for the way we have been getting on with things together is that my wonderful DH has decided that he does want to take the required medicine needed for him to get better.
At first, he didn't want to take these horse-pill sized, disgusting tasting meds four times a day. Every dose was a 'fight' that was stressful on both of us. Every dose meant explaining again and again why it was necessary and what might happen if he didn't take the pills. Suddenly, a few days ago it all clicked! He started asking me if it was time to take another pill. Started telling me I shouldn't wait too long lest I forget to give it to him. Actually woke up at midnight without complaint to take the night time dose.
This had been such a worry to me and therefore such a relief that every day has been a wonderful one. I feel like a wife again instead of a nurse or mommy. That he's back to making jokes, holding hands, taking car rides just to sight see a bit, even taken a few shopping trips (he hates shopping) together in peace and fun has been such a blessing to this house.
'We' still have problems -- with dementia some will never go away -- but I could easily take another 44 years like the past few days with this man and treasure each and every one.
Ya'll let me vent and complain and I thank you for that.
Now THIS is something worth sharing!
Wonderful news. So happy for both of you. 
